I was texting with the lovely Cortney Pearson today and (with permission) I wanted to share this text:
Ever have someone knock on your door, only to invite themselves in and stay for a couple of hours chatting? All the while you keep glancing at your computer, legs bouncing, grinding your teeth, wondering when on earth your friend is going to leave?
You find yourself nodding, saying the “Oos” and “Aahs” in the right moments, keeping your face animated, but are dying to just dive back into your story? And then when the door slams you rush to your computer and curse that you’ve wasted so much time?
If you’re my neighbor, I’m not talking about you. *winks*
How many of you have a hard time socializing because you’d rather be writing?
In the mom/parent world, there’s this thing called cliques. Yes, they exist. I’ve never cared to be a part of them. I don’t know, I’ve never been a person that needs social interaction. I enjoy people, take pleasure from meeting other crazy breeds of people like myself, but I don’t seek it, don’t need it to thrive.
Most moms have play dates, park dates, stroller walks, IDK what else… Zumba? (Which is great, it’s just not for me) I’d rather be writing. Time is precious. And after giving as much as I can to the kids, my hubby, the house (okay, I’m kidding, writing totally comes before the house), I want to spend my time creating.
It fulfills that part of me that needs a release. And for some, the social is the release that people need. But when does it cross a line? Is it okay to be the social pariah in the neighborhood? Be the person everyone talks about because your blinds are always drawn and they never see you leave the house? (Yes, I’m exaggerating, but you get the point)
I know that balance is essential in all things, but does socializing ever seem like more of a burden than a fun thing? Granted, I’m usually happy after going out into the world and being sociable (But that’s usually because I’m studying people and behaviors to use in my stories)
Where’s the balance with you? Do you thrive on the social? Or are your characters enough company for you?
Red. Head. Out. :D